One can try and try, cry and cry but nothing we do can overcome something that people get into their minds.
Is this talking about the Estrangement of your child? No! If the piece fits though, you can put it where you want to place it.
What runs through people’s minds is what runs through their minds. It all may be justification or maybe it’s because they’ve gotten the wrong idea about you or they’ve made a choice/decision about others and the dreams that they have had/think that they want. Perhaps, it’s that they’ve got others or addictions or friends or whatever but the truth is that no matter what you or anyone who has been rejected can say or do is going to change that idea until/unless they want to do it or why. Or, it could be because it pleases either themselves or someone else. Again though, nothing that one can do or say is going to change that because the person wants to have those beliefs for whatever their reasons or no matter why they’ve formed these opinions of you or anyone else for that matter. In other words, it is what it is.
It’s hard to live with though, isn’t it?
Yes, of course it is. No one wants to be “rejected” by anyone but ask yourself one question here.
Is it right for you to twist yourself into being a pretzel or turn yourself inside out for someone else?
If you answered NO to that question. You’re fed up and have tried everything to get that person back and it’s not worked for you, then it’s time to let it go. Let them go. They will anyway because as humans, we can’t change that which they have in their minds, habits or wants. They have to WANT to have you as part of their lives. If they don’t bother or don’t try, why should you? Have you asked yourself that question? Are there answers that you can handle? If not, why not? What’s holding you back?
The one thing that you can soothe yourself with a bit is that Life Isn’t Fair. Better said, as an old song says, “no one promised you a rose garden”. In other words, what was supposed to be, isn’t that way and Life doesn’t mean that blood is thicker than non-blood related people. Sometimes, it’s people who will do for you and with you, even if you have to pay them to do it for you, who are more “blood related” than those who truly are “relative” or have your same blood coursing through their veins.
If you’re alone and wish to have people around you who are sincere about you or keeping in contact with you or seem to care, think about your interests. Keep in mind what it is that you love to do and can do and get involved with a group even if it’s online. You’ll be learning a) about that topic further or offer up your expertise to others and b) you’ll be meeting perhaps, others who do care about you.
People come in all forms and shapes. They have interests too. We all have learned what to do and what not to do through these courses or classes. If someone bothers to see how you are especially, during this pandemic, then you’ll know that you have someone who cares even if it’s only about the idea of the course/programme or whatever you’ve chosen to become part of. It’s better than pandering to those who haven’t bothered and don’t care about you, right?
Further to that idea from my little corner of life to yours is that you do have choices which don’t involve those who can’t be bothered with you or in checking up on you when you’re not around them or have nothing left to offer them or something in their minds about you that has little to no merit or is as false as they can get. Why try any longer? Why leap an ocean for someone or several someones who wouldn’t step over a puddle for you especially, if you’ve tried to get them to do so?
Accept and give up! That’s the real message here.
Have a GREAT night, day or evening.
Love and Light!