There’s no need to go through the list of credits for either the late actress/comedienne Carrie Fisher nor, for her mother, actress, Debbie Reynolds. Their list of accomplishments within the entertainment world has and will be documented by many other sources. What I wish to express is my deepest condolences to their family.
It was tragic to hear that Carrie Fisher had passed away at the age of 60 but, to hear that her mother, Debbie Reynolds, suffered a stroke while making funeral arrangements for her daughter and passed away only hours later and one day after her daughter’s passing, was both ironic as well as horribly sad news in such a rough year where many stars that we came to love and know, have also passed on both young and old. There will be some hefty In Memoriams done during award ceremonies in early 2017 which may take up a good chunk of these shows.
While I was not truly a Carrie Fisher fan as much as I was a Debbie Reynold’s fan, I felt both of their losses and took them hard. That’s not to say that I thought any less of the others in the entertainment business who have passed this year but, more because this appeared to be a mother-daughter bond that even death couldn’t break.
In spite of many tortured years between Fisher and Reynolds (Fisher taking blame for that estrangement by saying that she didn’t want to be Debbie Reynold’s daughter due to her famous mother’s stardom) they had found a way to patch up their differences and were finally able to be together, loving one another.
Sadly, Fisher had drug addictions over the years as well as mental health issues that were also part and party to her issues with her mom. Fisher had smoked weed from the age of 13 then, went on to Cocaine, LSD and possibly other drugs. It’s unclear as to how much she did at this time. Years and even decades of their lives were ruined and wasted because of these issues. Fisher, herself, admitted it openly in books she had written, stand-up comedy routines as well as interviews, including one done with Oprah Winfrey.
Reynolds had long ago openly stated that it was heart breaking to watch her daughter in such distress and not wanting her as part of Fisher’s life. As graciously as she could, Reynolds stated that Fisher had pushed her away and there had been nothing she could do except to hurt. It was sad for both of them as so much time in Life was wasted that could have been spent together. The depths of mental health issues and drug addictions cannot be measured except in despair for all parties involved it seems.
What was certain was that Reynolds had been with son, Todd Fisher the morning of December 28, 2016, one day after her only daughter’s passing, distraught, overwhelmed and grieving to make funeral arrangements for Fisher when she was stricken with a stroke. It was allegedly not the first one this year or last that Reynolds had experienced but, it was the one that would end her life only hours later.
Reynolds had stated to Todd that she just wanted to be with Carrie. And, so it was. Her passing only hours after her daughter, Carrie’s death, led her to what we all hope was a reunion of the mother-daughter duo. Perhaps, there was a bond between mother and child that couldn’t be broken? Whatever it was, son, Todd Fisher stated “she’s with Carrie”.
As family will now have to plan a double funeral for the pair now, it’s uncertain as to how it will take place or when but, suffice it to say that one can only hope that they are together and at peace, loving one another without condition right now.
From my little corner of life, as sad as it all is, I can see reason, justice, hope and a bond that couldn’t be broken by even death itself. Prayers go out to their family left behind as they grieve both losses at once. May they take comfort in the idea that perhaps, just perhaps, they are truly together right now.