Life Isn’t Offering You A Rose Garden


(For those who prefer to listen.  Transcript below though it may differ ever so slightly than the audio)


Rose Garden, gazebo




I’m often known as a “Debbie Downer” or I am disliked because I’m not seated, cross-legged on the floor, mumbling “ohhhhhmmmm” to myself over and over again.  I also don’t pull punches and find gratitude for people who I don’t see as being worthy of praising.  In other words, I call it as I see it.

Contrary to popular belief, I am not about giving alms to people who don’t deserve it in my opinion.  While I set out to find the good in everyone, if they knock me off of that pedestal of love and light towards them, they aren’t going to get a glowing review from me.  Again, I tell it as I see it.  It doesn’t always make me right but, it doesn’t make others right either to heap on the good energy dung that gets flung around with New Age crap that seems to be in full abundance nowadays.

I grew up in a time frame where parents had a hand on the scruff of their children’s necks, there wasn’t praise to reinforce bad behaviours nor, were we rewarded because we cleaned our room or got a “B” or “A” at school on a test.  That was expected from us to some extent or another.  After all, it was our “job” to do.  Cleaning our rooms, helping out with dinner or setting or cleaning the table, doing our school work etc., were all part of our obligations versus something that should be lauded and applauded.  That said, there can be a middle ground between what was expected from children back then and what children expect from Life in today’s world.  While there’s still some pretty decent kids out there today in spite of some fairly ill-thought-out mentoring by society, there are an equal or greater number of kids who grew up believing that the earth, moon and sun should revolve around them and their needs and wants.  They don’t feel that they have to fit into a society.  They feel that they are the society.  Heaven help us all as we age with that type of thinking.

This leads to the crux of the matter right here.

The world does not owe these kids anything.  These kids owe the world something.  

It’s been painfully obvious that a lot of social media is set up to praise even the con-artists in Life.  Many of these same kids are now adults who have grown up, coddled by society and their parents and they truly believe that they should be considered the best thing since sliced bread and not have to dirty their hands with working even a normal job.  Everything is instant gratification with as little effort as absolutely necessary, put into something to get something out of it.  They’d sell their own grandmothers if it meant that they didn’t have to work another day in their lives.  They also expect that society should have to pay for them to do what they want to do in a day instead of having to go through the drudgery and effort of having to work a real job like their parents did.

A lot of these adult children are looking for ways to put in minimal effort, get maximum benefit and have plenty of time, money and energy left for vacations, fun, outings and spend more than half of their week, doing what they want to do.  

Was that bluntly put enough?  I hear sighs and a lot of swearing out there so, I guess I did put it straight out there as I see it.

Few of us haven’t grumbled about having to go to work.  Not many of us leap out of bed with the alarm every work day morning, shower, change, sing and skip off to jobs that we love.  Nor, do many of us have much time when we’re finished that day to come home, make dinner, clean up after ourselves and still have time to go out with friends until the wee hours of the morning or all weekend.  Yet, we do it because we need to keep roofs over our heads and food in our bellies.  In other words, we do what we’ve got to do and we’ve long since learned that the easy way of doing things that we’ve seen from others are not only few and far between but, there’s a lot more going on behind the scenes to get where they are than we’ll know about.  Someone tell these adult kids that much, please because there’s enough swearing and grumbling about it all to float a battle ship on coming from their mouths.

There’s a few things that these kids should know though that might help them.

  1.  There is no such thing as Easy Street.  It doesn’t exist.  Don’t bother to look for it on your GPS as you’ll be wasting your time.  Everything worth having, takes time, work and energy.
  2. Anything worth having, is worth working for.  That’s right, there’s not much that’s free in this world.  You’re going to have to work to have what you need and want.
  3. Hardships build character.  The less you try to avoid having to do, the less you are learning about yourself and the less character you’re building within yourself.
  4. You don’t know what you can do or not do until or unless you do it…like it or not.
  5. Your parents might have built you a Rose Garden to live in but, the world won’t do it for you.  Frankly, no one should ever have promised you a Rose Garden to begin with.  Wherever your parents left off, that’s where you’re going to have to pick up the slack and garden one for yourself.
  6. Minimal energy and effort in Life means minimal output for you.  Like it or not, every adult has to work at something unless you were born with a silver spoon in your mouth or a trust fund that says that you’ll never need to work a day in your life.  In which case, good luck to you because you’re going to be either bored out of your head and in trouble in one way or another or, you’re going to be plagued by phoney, fake people who are out to get something from you the easy way or con the crap out of you.  Your choice.
  7. Being your own boss doesn’t mean that you can sit on your behind all day and wait for the cash to leap into your lap.  There’s pros and cons to being your own boss but, one of the realities is that you need to put time, energy, effort and sweat into it. You can’t hide from that fact.
  8. If you’re walking on other people to get what you want, expect that others are going to be doing the same to you whether you think you’re too clever to fall for it or not.
  9. Only a tiny percentage of people who start off with their own entrepreneurial endeavours, end up staying in it or doing well.  Of that percentage, only an even tinier fraction of those people do well.  The rest are lucky to eek out a bare minimum living.
  10. You cannot live off of others for the rest of your life.  Sooner or later, that well is going to dry up.  What then?

In short, you may be sitting back, having read this and thinking that I’m The Wicked Witch of The West or the “bad guy” for having said it straight out but, the fact remains that no matter how many “ohhhhmmmms” you mutter, how many gratitude journals you write out and fill, The Universe or Higher Powers aren’t going to hand you everything.  You’re going to have to work for it all in one way or another.  You can learn this the easy way or the hard way but, no matter which way you learn it, you’re going to figure it out sooner or later.  Best to realize it before you have to rely upon others who may not be willing to help you out at that point in your life, right?

Now that I’ve given out my 5 cents worth of opinion, you can take what you wish from it or you can leave it but, I’d rather be realistic than a dreamer with unrealistic expectations, having fun now and paying for it later in Life.  The Law of Attraction means that you need to get your rear in gear and work in one way or another.  There’s no other way around it…even if you win the lottery.

From my little corner of life to yours,

Be Well.  Love and Light,

Have a great day or evening.






Background music by:  Kevin MacLeod (
Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 3.0 License

Published by ponderinglifetoo

I'm a wife, mother, artist, photographer and bookkeeper. I love writing out my thoughts in journals but, am finding my way to sharing these with others now.

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