The Correct Way To Work On Estranging Yourself

Are you not able to get your in-laws, parents, siblings or whomever, to do things your way or the way that you think things should be done? What about not being able to get whatever it is that you think you should be getting from others who are related to you? Here are a few steps that you can take to remedy these factors in your life.

Stick to your beliefs and demand that they follow your rules

No one knows better than you do. You are 100% correct in your own mind and heart about what it is that you want. You’ve done the research and you understand better than anyone else what it is that you believe to be true. Who is anyone else to go against your personal beliefs, research or whatever it is that you’ve decided was better for you? After all, you’ve had more education, read more articles, seen more music videos, gone over more studies than they have and know what’s the right thing to do, right?

Stick to your demands and commands that others do the same as you would have them do. Never give up on that idea even if it means that no one else sees it your way. Your way is your way. Don’t back down on it.

If you’re with someone else, let them help you see how to do things properly and why

Other people are more often than not, able to see things that you cannot see within yourself, your life or whatever the situation commands and demands. Likewise, you may be able to see what your spouse, friend or significant other can’t see. This is where you both need to help one another figure it out and point it all out to one another. Side with them on their accounts of things. After awhile, you’ll be able to spot what they’re talking about as they do and later on, even before they do. Get them to help you in the same fashion. It’s help and be helped to understand your own pasts, your parent’s issues, their parent’s issues, their siblings, their jobs, co-workers and anyone else that you or they don’t like. There’s a reason for it all that only you or they can see. Listen to them. Hear their voices as they try to point it out to you.

If you don’t have a person such as this, the internet is filled with ideas. Look hard enough and you’ll be able to find exactly what you’re looking for, along with groups, others who are in your predicament who can help you to see what you cannot see fully and put a name or label to it all. There are plenty of resources available to you if you didn’t already know that much. Use them to their fullest.

Did you know that you can write your own history?

Yes, you heard me correctly. If the circumstances don’t fit your idea of how things went in order to make a difference in anyone else’s minds, simply write things the way that you know will convince them of your point of view. You can’t be wrong so, the idea is to make others see your point of view no matter what it takes you to achieve that goal. Your account of things as you wish them to sound or be, if presented correctly, will certainly go a long way towards making others see things differently. It doesn’t matter what you say as long as you convince them. Write your own history and use that script as often as needed, where, when and with whom you need to do it. Simply get people onto your side. You deserve to have people believing you, right?

Bring out the big guns if all else fails

If all else fails and you need more in order to win people over or teach your parents a huge lesson, walk out on them. Walk out on everyone that you ever knew if need-be.

Do you remember your parent’s or grandparent’s reactions when you threatened a temper tantrum? How many of them gave in and did whatever it was that you wanted them to do? Did some of them fall for it eventually? While you may have had the “call your bluff” type attitude at first from your parents or others, eventually didn’t they break down and give into your demands in one way or another?

What about if you ever uttered the words, “I’m going to run away from home if you don’t….” Didn’t that have your parents or anyone else who heard it up in arms? No? Then, you didn’t do it correctly but, trust me as a parent, myself, the last thing that any parent wants is for their now grown or adult children to run away from home or better known as “estranging” from them. They fear it happening and will often cave into your demands if you do it correctly or with the idea that you’re going to punish your parents, one way or another.

From my little corner of life to yours, we may not be able to teach an old dog new tricks so to speak however, we can teach parents how to respond to us with a few things such as fighting with them, chastising them, calling them down, being cruel to them and the ultimate is to call their bluffs by actually estranging oneself from them. If you have any children or their grandchildren, keeping them from your parents will help your cause even further.

I have a book coming up on how to estrange yourself so, be on the look-out in this space for it. I will detail more as I go along and you’ll get complete instructions on how to estrange yourself effectively for your parents or siblings, friends or all of them.

***Please note: I do not have pricing information at this moment but, that will become apparent as time goes by and I will post it along with the cover and an detailed synopsis of my book.****

Be well,

Love and Light!

Published by ponderinglifetoo

I'm a wife, mother, artist, photographer and bookkeeper. I love writing out my thoughts in journals but, am finding my way to sharing these with others now.

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