Minds Can’t Be Changed No Matter What

There’s a lot going on in this world today that we’re all either mad, depressed or upset at. It’s natural and normal to be in a not-so-great mental status. However, if you’re wondering if you have any worth in being here (ie: suicide or self-harm), not only do you and anyone else who feels that way, need counselling big time but, we all need to give our heads a shake and a good one at that.

Thinking everything is going according to plan or being a puppet in their own minds?

With our own problems on top of world problems, most, if not all of us, are wondering what it is that we can do when the entire world seems to be driving us insane along with our own issues. No one is without issues. There’s not a single person on this planet who doesn’t have them, not even birds, squirrels, raccoons and whatever else one can name. Everyone has them. Top that off with the idea that the world is filled with problems and everyone except the young who have had their hampster die on them at worst, can understand why it is that more advanced people take things in so deeply. Sadly, if they live long enough (knock on wood they will), their time is coming when they’ll understand at least some of this.

Yes, I know that some think that it can’t happen to them because they have unlimited data and the latest cell phone or technology but, we all know that it can. Equally, I know that they feel that they are far more knowledgeable than people of more advanced ages and therefore, they know how to handle everything that comes their way. If they have Life come down on them, they will use what they’ve learned via information gleaned off the net. If that doesn’t work, alcohol or drugs will help as well as possibly knives, guns or a vehicle. One way or the other, they figure that they have control over everything. Someone please share with them what doesn’t work. Ok, well, you or others have tried to no avail, right?

Really, this is where things get really mixed up.

People who have been through things try to tell these people what their lives have been like but, it does no good. Why? Because these types of humans have already written a “script” out for themselves, based upon someone else’s experiences. It doesn’t matter if it’s from their own minds and worlds, someone on the net, trying to sell them a book, a therapist who may mean well but, who’s selling sessions or some info off of the information highway and is full of either conspiracy theories or bunk. Their minds are made up and you nor I or anyone is going to change that mindset that they’ve gotten in one way or another. It is what it is and those who think or believe that they have it all together, will find out sooner or later that the best made plans of mice and men go astray.

What then? They’ve dumped everyone else who could have helped or given their opinion so, who do they turn to? Others like them who haven’t experienced what they are going through? What kind of answer do you think is going to be given out by them? “Oh geeze (cursing and swearing aside), I don’t know what to tell you. Take some vitamins or something and here’s some weed or alcohol. That’ll make it all better.”

Life has an odd way of tossing in some nasty monkey wrenches into the mix which can upset the best laid plans, right? We know this but, do they? Will they?

The answer to this is an absolute “yes” but, these types of adults seem to believe that they have it all covered. It’s all so “easy” in their world and minds. They don’t need anyone to help them because they know exactly what they’re going to do about everything and if they don’t, there’s a cell phone in their hand or a tablet which only takes a moment or two to do a search and come up with the ideas on how best to handle it, right?

If worse comes to worst, they will seek out a therapist usually around their ages who know best. Oh, you mean that they don’t know it all? They are people too and only hearing one side of the story before they utter, “time’s up”.

What about the ones who wasted all of the time that they had with those who have been through it and know more than they are given credit for knowing? What about the people who cut off their noses to spite their faces so to speak and realize later on that they should have at the least, realized who had their backs but, it’s too late as they’ve gone elsewhere or aren’t mentally available. There’s no going back on that point. It’s far too late.

It’s better to be alone than to have someone around who doesn’t care to be there or who believes that they’re ok because they have A, B and C around them. Wait until they have no one who cares about them around, including A and B, maybe even C.

My father-in-law was a total stickler for doing “the right thing”. He called people Mr. or Mrs.. He went to every single wedding or gathering that he was invited to (which amounted to every thing that went on, whether he knew them well or not as that was what he was told he had to do). Church was paramount as was volunteering within his European Community. In other words, he was “covered” right? Not so. In later years, people forgot about him or didn’t want him around. Even one of his offspring didn’t care for him or anything about him unless there was something in it for him. That was in spite of hundreds of thousands of dollars given to this offspring as well as a year’s living in my father-in-law’s house. In between, this specific person has their life torn apart and it’s about to get more dicey as time goes along and other things are taken from him as well. I digress though because my father-in-law was all but forgotten by so many people that come a time when he was being moved into a care home (he wouldn’t allow anyone into his home to care for him so, what the heck were we going to do with him), no one in that home that he’d volunteered for in over 20 years or more, even knew him or bothered with him. He passed on within 3 weeks of being there in spite of our nearly daily visits that he didn’t remember us having done and an extra care giver that we had hired for the daytime. We took over evenings for the most part. In other words, no one saw this coming, not even him and yet, he’d done everything “right” in his mind and demanded that everyone else do the same things.

My mother died when she was 54 years of age, my father at 66 years of age, my brother at 53 years of age. There are still days when I wish that I could have picked up the phone and called one of them, seen them or asked for their advice or opinion on things. Even if I didn’t think that it fit, something is to be said for being able to ‘bounce’ something off of someone else. That wasn’t to be and none of them saw their lives going in the directions that they went either. No one did. Life is unpredictable and most of us know that much. Conspiracy theorists, those taking psychedelic drugs or anyone who believes that they are invincible, can go on believing that script. We all know that it doesn’t work that way, does it? A lot of the theorist or those of drug usage have died unexpectedly or expectedly. Not many have survived in spite of their alleged vast amounts of knowledge or wisdom. That’s because Life does hand out some fairly bad tosses. Sadly and pathetically, it will throw them the something at one point or another that the net or someone else can’t solve for them.

From my little corner of life to yours, if you’re stumbling about, trying to make heads or tails out of things or, worse, asking yourself “why”…stop doing it. That script has already been written and ingrained in minds. Whether we see it or we don’t, those who have these internal scripts written and refuse to believe anything that you say or do, won’t hear you or see you trying. Give it up. Live your life because trying only leads to more and more heartache. It’s better to be alone than with people who “know it all” while bowing to them, right? Nothing you say is being heard. They know better.

Best of wishes,

Love and Light.

Published by ponderinglifetoo

I'm a wife, mother, artist, photographer and bookkeeper. I love writing out my thoughts in journals but, am finding my way to sharing these with others now.

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