It never ceases to amaze me what it is that people come up with. There is no pleasing everyone. As a matter of fact, there is no pleasing all of the people, all of the time to coin an old phrase said by who, I don’t know at this moment. What I do know is that a lot of people will read what interests them in here and toss out the rest. Oh yes, they will write out their comments with reckless abandon anonymously as though they have it all right and know everything. Yet, they will barely read another word written in here on any other topic. The above statement is talking about a topic that is part of my experiences in Life. Estrangement.
So, why does this phenomenon floor me? It’s because these “adults” either think that they have the “Holy Grail” to parenting and it will never happen to them because they feel that they know you and especially me. Secondly, it tells me that they are looking for articles to back or support or justify their reasonings for estranging, these “adults” have done something like estrange themselves and anything that doesn’t agree with them or their thinking is rubbish while they hope that there is an article that they can rest their laurels upon and most particularly, they are still looking for answers that make them feel better about their choices even if they feel that they’ve done the right thing. The point that they have to voice their opinion over it all, is note enough to me that they are not at all sure that they’ve done the right thing by estranging themselves and are possibly feeling guilty about it all. Will they read this piece? Likely not. Why? Because they will be far too busy looking online for ways to justify their decisions. They won’t read this and if they do, they will call me or many of you parents “narcissistic, toxic, psychopathic or telling me that I delete anyone’s opinion that doesn’t agree with me. Would they be right? Yes, of course they would be if they’ve done so with a rude, lewd or mean streaked comment. I don’t delete but rather my filters do and yes, those that are left in by filters have to be okay’d by me so as not to publish any links (yes, I get spam on here too). I don’t get to read or even publish comments every day. None every single day. I have a life too even if I appear to have none to these types of people.
Let me ask something here to those who will do this type of thing. Do you think that you are 100% correct or are you still searching for back-up to your decision to estrange? Now who is hurting? Who is afraid that they’ve taught their own children what it’s like to estrange? More key here is who do you think that you are? This is the net and anyone can say anything about themselves. I don’t know you and neither do others who read and will read your comments so make them respectful or don’t write them at all.
Now to parents of Estranged Adults. If you’re not going to speak up as many have done in my now defunct YouTube channel, thanks to glitches during a pandemic, then I nor anyone can help you. If you prefer to stay to yourself and “hide”, then that is what you’re going to do. Again, no one can help you with your situation except tissues to cry into or whatever it is that you’re going to do. Poor pillows for getting pounded out of anger.
That being said, if you are an estranged adult, think twice before you write out an “anonymous comment” like a keyboard warrior. If this isn’t for you, it isn’t for you. Ignore it. No one has a gun to your head and you need to ask yourself why you’ve read this far. Of course, I don’t need to tell you that you’re not over it all or you wouldn’t be reading any of the articles written upon estrangement.
If you’ve been truly beaten or abused or neglected or even if you believe that you have been by your parents and have estranged, think about what that will do to your own either children or future children. It may have the effect that you’re so desperately trying to hide.
From my little corner of life to yours, if you’re the parent of an estranged adult child, go and get yourself a good box of facial tissues or a pillow to pound on because if you aren’t with me, voicing your opinion, you’re going to need those things. And, that’s the last thing that I’m going to say about this topic unless I see more parents (not estranged adults) asking for more.
Have a great day/evening/weekend.
Love and Light!