Covid-19 And Your Rights?

No maks, no physical distancing, crowds and they wonder why their age groups are getting higher numbers? It’s no conspiracy theory. It’s them and their choices to not care about others or the numbers. They’re working their way to another lock-down.

Almost everyone gets it. We’ve all got “Covid-19 fatigue”. Not many are feeling chipper and upbeat. Most people are tired out of this crud and being kept in or away from their usual lives by Covid. It’s tiresome for certain. Those who wouldn’t normally go out, can’t do so and it’s the not being able to do as they want, when they want that has them feeling down. I’m one of the ones who feels down to say the least. Stressed is another good word to add it as it’s affecting more people than anything else especially, with work, schools and more.

How many programs can we stream or watch on Netflix before we want to crawl out of our skins? How many drive-thru windows can we see and when even that looks like it’s a treat, we soon find out that it’s not. Even “friends” are starting to give up on the Zoom or What’s App shite now because it’s boring and we’ve all been there and done it hundreds of times already.

With all of this under our belts, anger and rage is and has been setting in. Most people’s tempers are on hairpin triggers nowadays and is there any wonder why? No!

What none of us can afford to do with this, no matter what our ages, is to be complacent about it. More countries in the world are seeing upticks in new numbers of cases because as numbers lowered and things were slowly allowed to be opened (some countries more than others), people went out whole hog and did whatever they wanted more or less.

There have been:

  • More cases of Covid because of it all
  • Less tolerance
  • More killings, stabbings, shootings etc.
  • Protest after protest after protest with looting, burnings, fires, shouting, illegal activities and few, if any, physical distancing
  • Masks worn under noses and chins or to get into stores then pulled down again
  • People going up aisles marked as “down” and there’s no reading or language barriers in symbols such as arrows or footprint logos
  • Going to parties where there’s no social or physical distancing or masks worn properly at the least
  • Raves, dirty and crowded beaches, defecation all over lawns and sand or wherever they can find spots
  • Alcohol bottles found all over the place where parties have taken place illegally
  • So much more that it’s too lengthy to record here

While it was once noted that people under the ages of 18 or 20 couldn’t get the virus, there was little concern for who they’d take it home to. Now, the biggest group of people who are catching this rogue virus that is curtailing everything for everyone, comes with those between the ages of 20 and 39. Why? Because they refuse to follow protocols put in place no matter what conspiracy theories they have or whether or not they believe the numbers. Like a world leader has said, “it’ll all just blow away”. No, it won’t!

Myself, I’ve seen a lot of people who have ignored the rules and it’s common to see people gathering without restrictions to “protest” anything and everything that they can do right now. It’s not that there haven’t been other times with eerily similar incidents where they could have protested but, it’s because they’re bored and have nothing to do so, out they go to yell, scream and pump signs, burn, loot and whatever else they wish to do.

Parties are another thing. There are those who will have parties unregulated because they want to. Covid-19 be damned. They aren’t going to get it especially once they have a few alcoholic drinks or weed under their belts. They’re “invincible”!

No they are not and the stats are showing that much.

Hey, young people, while you may think or feel that your life is going by and you should have the right to do whatever it is that you want, think about people who are terminally ill and their days are numbered. How about the elderly who are in either their own home or nursing homes. Does it make any sense to you that those who have a limited amount of time on this planet should have to do so with restrictions? Their time on this planet is limited. Do. you truly want to take that away from them as well because you wanted to protest or go to a party? Really?! If you wouldn’t pick up a gun under normal circumstances and shoot someone in the head on purpose, what makes you think that you’re not playing Russian Roulette with this virus and potentially killing off others? It’s akin to picking up a gun and shooting at people randomly. Things aren’t as normal. If you say that you’re smart, act it!

To those of all ages who are risking your lives saying, “yeah, they were destined to die anyway,” let me ask you one thing. If you give yourselves rights, do you not believe that you’re taking away the rights of others? Does it matter to you that you may be killing off people because of your insensitive moves right now or during Covid-19 times? Are your parties or protests that important to you? If so, then you all need to be put onto deserted islands where you can party by night and protest by day, only infecting one another.

From my little corner of life to yours, working is bad enough if done outside of your home but, to think that you are not affecting others and the numbers, you’d be wrong. You are and you are the reason why numbers are going up no matter what your thinking is on this topic or on conspiracy theories.

To the rest, following the rules, while Covid Fatigue is and has been setting in, hang in there, keep the rules, think twice about who else you’re putting in danger, instead of yourselves. We are ALL tired of this crap now but, we know that the alternatives are bad. Stay the course and we’ll all be out of it faster than we know.

By the way, if you’re one of the ones who want to do it for “Herd Health”…think again! However, be my guest. Go ahead and bring up those numbers higher. You’ll be in lock-down again with the rest of those who are afraid, bored and living what’s left of Life. It’s ok. Honestly, I can’t wait for Winter to set in. It’s less “fun” to be out in the streets, protesting during bitter temps.

Be well, stay well and keep the course!

Love and Light!

Why Estrangement Means That Adults Are Going To Have Issues To Deal With

What can we learn from estrangement?

When someone else blames you for their issues within their lives or themselves, it likely isn’t about you or anything that you’ve done. It’s out of your control. That’s likely because it has more to do with them and their choices or lack of them in Life.

Yes, they can blame you or anyone else for that matter. They can dream up things, attempt to lie to themselves or others and perhaps, be convincing about it all but, the truth is that they have to face themselves, sooner or later. Others don’t care or at the least, unless they are party to their choices, they truly won’t give a darn for much time anyway. Worse than that, people who do this type of thing or those traits aren’t going to go away simply because they’ve blamed them (whatever they may be) on you. This is especially true if you have no part in their lives because that’s the way that they wanted it and you have abided by their wishes. Sooner or later, they will only have themselves to deal with if you aren’t party to anything. Anything that goes wrong in their lives is therefore, someone else’s faults if that’s what they are choosing to do. Remember or keep in mind that no matter what you feel or don’t feel, how badly you may feel for them or how angry you may be, it’s their issues, their wishes and if they have walked out of your life and you haven’t beaten them or neglected them, they will have to deal with the outcome internally in one way or another. Whether it’s outright or inwardly, they are the ones who have made those choices whether they tell you or others that they had to do it because you are (fill in the blanks).

By now, you’ve likely recognized that I’m mainly talking about estrangement here and the issues that go along with it all. Unless you were a truly “evil” person who loves the idea of controlling others or making them bow down to you, in spite of what they want to tell each other, others or their spouses, siblings and family or friends, there is no reason for them to walk off as they have done.

If there was true abuse and I mean that they have stories that you know to be true of beatings, mentally and emotionally or you were neglectful in big ways, they are going to meet with many others who are going to “abuse them” as they would try to say that they were. What about their bosses, spouses, friends or others in their lives, including perhaps, children of theirs? Are they going to say that everyone is “evil” and has abused them too? Who are they to be so downtrodden or are they the “abuser”? Think about those things. In the meanwhile, there are things that we can keep in mind as parents.

  1. When your adult child estranged it’s rarely over you or anything that they claim that you’ve done and it’s never usually about the final “blow-up”.
  2. Adults who estrange themselves, do so because they want you or others to do something for them even if that’s to change yourself.
  3. They rarely ever want what they proclaim to want you to do or be. Even if you were to be able to be who they say that they want, that idea will change over and over and over again in most cases. It’s like playing a game of “Whack-a-mole” at a fair. You can’t win. They don’t want you to.
  4. If you want them back again, they have to want it too. Give up trying to win them back. I know this is contrary to what’s been said by others who are out to sell you books, cd’s, sessions or something. Have you ever noticed the number of “doctors” who are on YouTube for instance? Haven’t you wondered why a so-called “successful” doctor would want the pittance that YouTube/Google pays them to do these videos? What about how “busy” they should be if they’re that good a “doctor”? I’m sure that many of you have done your homework to find doctors galore with “merch” to sell online or other payable accounts somewhere. That’s because many of them aren’t doing so well and that’s because they are out to sell to the marketing age groups of 18 to 49 years of age. They aren’t out to help truly. They’ve got it in mind to sell, sell, sell.
  5. Once our adults reach adulthood, as much as we, as parents, want to save them from hurt or the world, we can’t do it. Like everyone else, they are going to have to face Life and all that’s part of it. That means, bills, raising children, nights up with lost sleep and everything that you’ve had to go through to some extent or another. They are not about to get away without it all unless they are so into themselves or “narcissistic” as they’d call parents that they don’t even know. If they’re demanding with others in their lives, they are going to find Life a bit more than difficult once you’ve laid off of them. Try it and see.
  6. If you’ve already stopped chasing them, begging them or whatever, at some point, though we, as parents may feel at first as though we’re losing out on something, they are the biggest losers and will have to figure it out for themselves. They will. One way or another, they will and we don’t have to leave this planet for them to do it.
  7. Yes, it’s a shame for those of us who have uttered, “but, I’m alone”. No one says that it’s easy. We can cry and mourn their losses and be justified in doing so but, remember that their Lives aren’t as peachy as what they portray it to be either. It doesn’t matter that you’ve potentially seen or heard that they’re doing well. They can show it any way that they want but, it’s only a snapshot of what they face within themselves when no one is around.
  8. Throwing a “funeral” or “memorial” of sorts for them is fitting. Why? It’s because they usually aren’t ever coming back into your life as they were. Therefore, it’s only realistic for anyone who wants to do so to throw a funeral or memorial for the adult that you knew. Time doesn’t go backwards and we, as parents, can’t get back the same person who left us. Even if that’s only been a few months or weeks, we will never be the same people, feel the same about them or they can’t be the same person who walked out that door. Those adults are gone.
  9. If you have Grandchildren who you’ve been kept from seeing, remember that they will one day, ask about you. It may for some, be sooner rather than later but, a lot of estranged adults will keep the realities behind it all away from their offspring. It’s not going to sound good to that child especially if they have known about you or known you, yourself. I know one person who had estranged herself from her father, keeping her children from him with lies about him. The children were not only shocked to find out that they did have a grand alive but, they were mad at their mother for keeping them from him and hidden.
  10. Also remember that adults who both estrange themselves from their parents and even families or friends or all 3 in my case, are teaching both themselves as well as their possible children (if there are any), how to treat other people. It’s an “I don’t like it so, I had to get out of it” type of thing. How many times can they not like something happening and they walk away? If they can work things out with that person, why didn’t they try with you? They are teaching their own children to do the same. Walk away whenever something isn’t liked by them and that could mean that their own children will walk away from them. Estranged adults have taught their children to do so no matter what their excuses sound like or are.

What this is all really saying is that you, as the parent(s) don’t have to punish them or cry or whatever it is that you’re doing to yourself. They aren’t doing this to us anymore. They’ve done it to themselves and are continuing to do so.

From my little corner of life to yours, there are going to be good days and bad days. We’ve ALL had far too much time to think with this pandemic but, that doesn’t mean that they are or have been right. If you know that you haven’t done anything “evil” to them, remember that you weren’t a perfect person or parent. None of us were and reality says that neither are they or will they be.

Be well, stay well, stay safe…we WILL get through this!

Love and Light!

Dirty Dancing With Jennifer Grey Is Coming Back As A Sequel

If you’re a Dirty Dancing (the movie) fan, as many of us are, you’ve likely already heard the news. Dirty Dancing: The Sequel is coming with Jennifer Grey who played “Frances “Baby” Houseman in the original, both starring in and executive producing the film.

Some 33 years after the movie was first released, Grey along with Lionsgate, has decided to bring it back to the big screen.

How they will write around Patrick Swayze (Johnny Castle)’s death is still up in the air for viewers and fans. However, that’s the one good piece of news that I’ve heard besides there being a return of Gilmore Girls for 4 more episodes. It never went beyond that.

Fans have long awaited some form of Grey being in a Sequel to Dirty Dancing and here it comes. Get ready. It’s believed that it will be released in the summer of 2021 but, no one is sure yet to the best of my knowledge.

It was sad enough that Swayze died in 2009 due to Pancreatic Cancer but, to have Grey star in the sequel is enough to make Swayze proud.

I once wrote to Swayze while he was healthy and asked him if he’d consider a sequel to the movie with Jennifer Grey. His answer was simple. “No”. That was it. No fanfare, no further explanation. It was simply a “no”.

Grey, actor Joel Grey’s daughter, Swayze’s acting partner in North & South as well as Dirty Dancing and a contestant in Dancing With The Stars, has certainly come a long way in 33 years or more.

Now, 60 years of age, Grey doesn’t look that by far. Mind you, plastic surgery hasn’t hurt her younger look any but, it certainly has changed how she looks.

It’s been assured to fans that the “made for tv movie ending” with Brezlin and co-star, won’t be the ending that this one has and will leave fans more satisfied with the ending. Mind you, having had a “B” movie with a small budget being one of the best loved movies of the 80’s with a triple digit millions of dollars return isn’t bad to hope for either and Grey knows what that feels like. So does Lionsgate.

No matter what, being a fan of the movie for over 3 decades hasn’t hurt the fact that I am going to be front and centre when it does come out. I’m sure many others will be as well. I’ll find a way, Covid or no Covid!

Best of wishes for staying well and just a little gift for fans,

Love and Light!

To Open or Not To Open

Do we need to move forward in spite of Covid-19?

Every country, every region, every population has different circumstances and needs and that means that the rather tough decision on whether to open the area’s businesses or not is purely contingent upon what an area’s needs are or aren’t.

Let’s take an area that has relatively little or few cases of Covid 19. They may be remote with a lesser population and therefore, a less likelihood of getting this virus. Give area residents the ability to go to open restaurants, barbers, gyms etc. and the possibilities go up. Open that area up to visitors from larger populated areas or especially, different countries and you’re going to see their numbers soaring.

There are more concentrated areas as well where the population has higher numbers of Covid already but, open up that area too widely, too quickly or with repatriations from other countries and we know what happens there, right?

Ok, now add in the idea that people are getting anxious, depressed, financially bowled over and mental health is declining greatly with it all. Isn’t that dangerous too?

What about children? It’s hard enough that grown adults can’t cope with the isolation factors but, add children into the mix and we’ve got a recipe for a complete breakdown of both children and their parents.

What’s one to do? How does one deal with it all when there’s no treatment, no vaccine, no way to cope and in a lot of countries, testing isn’t up to par and won’t be due to a number of factors including the lack of testing equipment/reagents. It’s a mess, right?

No one holds the key to what’s going to happen here. The more we learn about this new Coronavirus, the more both headaches as well as benefits we have to it all and we’re finding out what’s what as we go along. No one has all of the answers or they’d be considered heroes not to mention omnipotent, right?

An old saying probably says it best, “the more that we know, the more we realize that we don’t know”. Who said it, I have no idea but, it had to have been someone wise.

What do we do in the meantime? Can we trust the numbers?

The answer to the second question is a resounding, “no!”. We cannot trust the numbers for quite a few reasons including that countries aren’t always open or perhaps, accurate and the general population hasn’t been tested nor added. People have the virus without even knowing that they do and give it to others because they feel fine. The reality is that there are reasons beyond being able to list them all for that “no” answer.

As for the first one, well it’s been said that there won’t be a vaccine any time soon. Frankly I don’t want one at this point in time anyway. Why don’t I want it? I don’t want it anytime soon because it’s all being rushed and in all honesty, not only is the efficacy in question but, the side effects are as well and, the length of time immunity will last. That’s not even counting in the idea that the virus may mutate the way that many others do. If one were to follow conspiracy theory lines, one may even want to say that the producers of such a vaccine would stand only to make money, money and more money off of it, right? No one can even be sure if someone who has had it and successfully fought it off with antibodies being left behind, can indeed, catch it yet again. It’s like the proverbial which came first, the chicken or the egg question. No one has a definitive answer at this moment.

What we do know is that people are stressed and depressed over this tiny virus and it’s reign of terror. It will even be interesting to see what happens when the numbers are brought out after students go back to school.

The other thing that’s certain is that it’s been said that this will be the “new norm” for quite sometime to come. What about people though? How long can anyone watch Netflix or tv or sleep, eat and pray? How many walks can people take before it all becomes “old hat” and simply another time to reflect upon what’s going right and what’s going wrong. While some may have come to some arrivals at conclusions about themselves, their lives or what they want out of themselves, others and their lives, it’s a certainty that after so many months of being isolated from other people, normal lives and even being in financial straights, people are going stark, raving mad/crazy. This then becomes a moment in time whereby governments have to make some hard decisions.

It’s been well known that mankind is a social entity. People need other people eventually and since this pandemic is going to go on for quite sometime with the virus still around, Life as we know it has to go on too. Don’t get the last statement wrongly. That means that Life has to go on with rules, regulations, following them and being careful however, it does mean that things need to go back to a more “normal” pattern of living WITH this virus as part of it just was we all live with the idea of colds. No one wants it and no one has the wish to die of course but, the reality is that all of us have to live in a world whereby we can carry on some sort of semblance of normalcy within boundaries.

Maybe, Mankind was too far into globalization or maybe, it was a way to population control in natural ways? I mean it does cost to both house and treat those with ailments or requiring nursing homes. Also not mentioned is the idea that seniors need to receive some sort of pension, medications or nursing homes which must cost governments billions every year. Perhaps, it was because there had to be some way to control the pollution levels? Or, it may have been a way for the governments of the world to gain both financial control over the world? We don’t know but, what is certain is that we need to all be able to move about with restrictions. Covid is real. It’s not a joke but, it’s also not healthy for us all to remain indoors all winter long without being able to go anywhere outside of our homes.

From my little corner of life to yours, the question of whether to open or not open things (with restrictions of course) is thankfully, not ours. The younger of populations may feel that this is the time to protest freely but, the question remains “is it” or are they restless and being foolish? Were the governments of the world wrong in telling us that younger people weren’t as at risk for this as more elderly ages? I think perhaps, it was foolish and is for all concerned. That said though, I’m glad that I’m not the one making decisions on what to open and what not to, when, how and how much? Winter is coming in a lot of countries in the northern hemisphere. What then?

Be well, stay well, best wishes,

Love and LIght!

Are Covid Numbers When It Comes To Deaths Real or What

This woman is 100 years young. If she were to die now, tested positive for Covid would the cause of her death be Covid Related or age?

It’s hard to believe that someone who is over 100 years of age or even nearly 98 years of age, had died because of Covid-19. While it may be true, the reality is that people are going to die of something especially, if you’ve managed to make it to 90 or 100 years old, right?

What’s equally disturbing is the idea that many cases of so-called “Covid Deaths” may in fact be due to something else or the idea that a virus may have made a pre-existing age or health issue kick someone over the edge but, in reality, the person has died of some other pre-existing issue and tested positive or showed symptoms of Covid-19.

Don’t misunderstand this point, please:

Covid-19 is to be taken SERIOUSLY. It’s no joke and it’s real but, the numbers may not at all represent the real story.

Everyone is certainly different and that means that no two people are going to present or even take the same or similar things and deal with it in the same way. Some have beaten the odds of being in their late 80’s and even 100 years of age with Covid-19 while others have died. There are others who are much younger with relatively no health issues, are healthy people and yet have died while others have exhibited no symptoms of it or mild symptoms even as mild as a common cold. The symptoms of the virus are so varied and are so new that even a health professional cannot tell the difference easily or without a Covid-19 test result.

Where oh where though are the usual suspects during all of this? Why are we not bothering with those things as much now? What about the common cold or heart issues or so many other things? Why is the talk solely about being about Covid-19 related topics. Turn on any news channel or read any article and you’re likely to find it already there, searched out or not.

If one isn’t careful, one can assume that the answer to all health issues is to make them go away by giving the globe a pandemic virus. I say that with tongue in cheek of course.

The numbers behind the deaths though may or may not be due to Covid. We are so ready to put deaths down to it that we’ve actually forgotten that “Uncle Joe” for instance was 104 years of age, taking heart meds for a failing heart issue and even if they hadn’t have gotten tested and had Covid-19, they were due to die anyway at some point or another. How is it then that a lot of people’s deaths have been put down as a “Covid Death or Covid Related Death” when in fact it may have been co-existing with other problems which actually did cause their demise? Is it easier on doctors to put down their cause of death as “Due to Covid-19” because they had previously tested positive for it?

I can’t believe that I’m about to say this but, it’s actually refreshing to hear that people have or are having death certificates labelled as “natural causes” versus a Covid-19 death. It goes without saying that no one should die nor that I want it to happen by any means of the word. I do however believe that there are numbers that are not realistically the cause of death such as Covid. It may be that it’s simply more simple to put that down as the cause of death than it is that “Aunt Bea” was 99 years of age and going to die anyway. Never mind the fact that “Aunt Bea’s” nephew and nieces had her placed in a nursing home because she had issues that couldn’t be taken care of at home or without shifts and specialized equipment or that her mind, heart and hearing had gone long ago. What if “Aunt Bea” had made it through Covid-19 only to die a few weeks or months later? Would her cause of death forever be because she had tested positive for Covid-19? Some say that once someone has tested positive for it, it will always be considered to be a factor in their deaths. Is it true? Do we know? Does anyone truly know given that we know so little as man-kind about Covid-19 at this point in time?

Let’s take a look though at someone who had lived well into their mid-90’s and died at home, having had several small strokes that took away her quality of life while she had wanted to leave this planet in her mid to late 80’s but, couldn’t go and the little boy who lived next door, battled cancer and died at the ripe old age of 7. It didn’t seem fair, did it?

I remember my MIL, grandmother (paternal) and a whack of others who were in their 90’s passing away from or with pneumonia. There was no Covid back then. What if there had have been though?

From my little corner of life to yours, everyone’s heart stops, as does breathing and the brain’s ability to function. Should doctors then write down, “heart failure” as the cause of death? How does this work?

What I am saying is that everyone should follow directions given for your area and the numbers but, also keep in mind that not every death may be from Covid that’s been reported or as recorded.

Wear a mask.
Social Distance

Be vigilant with keeping your hands away from your face and wash your hands as instructed.

Stay home if you feel ill in any way.

Keep to “bubbles” of social groups and keep your distance…or, whatever is suggested for your area.

More than anything, seek out help if you feel that your mental health is at stake and more particularly if you know that you have or have come in contact with someone who has tested positive. Call your doctor and see what he/she recommends that you do or don’t do.

I did gather the courage to go into a dollar store that I had been avoiding today. I did it as safely as I could and found out quickly that others were in there or even working their for hours per day. I think we all need to start safely get back into Life again. This little particle virus shouldn’t have the upper hand.

In other words….

Be well, stay safe,

Love and Light!

What Good Is Insurance

Why are we paying for insurances that we can't and don't use if they are ducking out of responsibility?
Why. are we paying for insurances on the house and car if we can’t use it when needed?

Have you ever asked yourself what good home and car insurance are if you aren’t able to use it out of fear of increased premiums or that the insurance company may drop you entirely? What are we paying for?

Seriously, I know a lot of people, myself included, who have bought and are paying for home and car insurance who cannot or will not use it because of the insurance company’s policies. For example, charge as much as you can, pay out the least amount that you can and threaten them with dismissal if they put in more than one claim. People don’t use it. So, what do we all have it for?

Last year, for instance, we had water pipes burst. The damage done was extensive to us, including electronics that got water damaged, floors, ceilings and so much more. The insurance sent over a third party “adjustor” who likely had taken a weekend long course in adjusting, was hired by the insurance company and downplayed/downgraded the damages so greatly that we couldn’t even get a floor replaced for the money that he wanted to deem it at. Oh, you can bet that I went to a lawyer and it was found to be a crime.

In came the “emergency services” which we now know were underpaid, unskilled and paid for by the insurance company at the lowest rates possible. In other words, they were picked up off of the streets to work hard and not be paid properly. Why? We later found out that the ER companies that you’re stuck to because you are stressed right out, get quantity of work, not quality. They are out to make a buck out of sheer volume and will use the least expensive way to go as well as trades people who deserve more but, are either illegally in the country and hired at rock bottom prices, work stupid hours and long days and come to work even ill because they have so much pressure on them by both the restoration companies as well as the insurance companies who are as I’ve said, out to make a buck and keep as much of it as possible.

I don’t know about you but, I don’t come home and start drilling through walls or chipping away at them every week or night to check water and electrical wiring. Not many people do, if any. Why would anyone want to do that type of thing.

Never the less, we lost not only most of our electronic devices to the water that fell from the ceilings due to “depreciation” and couldn’t afford to have them replaced at today’s prices, (we’re including lamps, computers, cameras, tablets etc. here) but, the ER company didn’t seem to think beyond tearing things down and left us with a secondary set of damages which we reported to the insurance company promptly.

In turn, they sent over yet another company that didn’t do even moisture readings in the walls and therefore, they weren’t available to contractors that we’d chosen to give us written estimates. Low and behold, the prices were 10 times the amount that was offered to us. Let me tell you all that we don’t go with the most expensive contractors but, we also won’t go with the guy who gives the lowest price, working out of the back of his car or a “fly-by-nighter”. We even paid a plumber on our own, trying to minimize the damages before this “adjustor” came to look by installing shut off valves and use whatever we could find to clean up the flood of water that had engulfed a good portion of our home.

Do you want to know what the ER contractor did to rectify this matter? He sent over some “dehumidfiers” that blew air onto wet walls and bubbled paint.

This is where I lost it and screamed down the walls within the insurance company who finally sent an adjustor from the insurance company to our home and he allowed us to get our own estimates from private contractors, which we did. Would you believe that we ended up settling for half the amount that contractors wanted and paid the rest out of our pockets? Yes, that’s what we had to do.

In the Fall of last year, some nearly 11 months later, sewers backed up into our home, taking even more of our belongings. We had to pay an ER plumbing company to come by and deal with it. It took 2 days. He was hard working but, one could tell by his lack of English that he wasn’t here legally either. At least the sewers wouldn’t back up into our home any longer and that was thousands of dollars later.

Well, as if that wasn’t enough, on top of Covid-19 this year, we had our neighbour’s tree that was dead and decaying and we’d talked to him about it over 2 years ago now, fall into our backyard. Not only has it crushed our by-law fencing around the pool but, it landed in it and perhaps, has torn the liner. We aren’t sure but, the water has turned lovely colours and we can’t even remove the rain because trunks of the tree are blocking our way down to the pump and filter though the gate.

Back onto the phone where we were told that HIS insurance wasn’t going to cover the damages in our back yard nor, remove his tree even. What are we supposed to do with it all. We have no money for it all. In calling our insurance company and nearly 3 hours later, I found out that if we were to put through a claim, we could have a higher deductible (ie: some thousands more) or we could lose coverage entirely as they refuse to cover us completely and, they don’t have to pay early termination fees either. Scare, scare, scare. They’re good at that.

My next step is a lawyer for these companies and the neighbour doesn’t have the money for it all either. At the advice of his insurance company, let ours take care of it all. What?! How? Why should the neighbour’s tree, decaying dead and rotting, having fallen into our backyard, doing damages, be our responsibility? How can that be? We’re not even getting into inconveniences as well as the neighbour on the other side of us having had that tree affect him as well.

So, while I’ve given everyone the tip of the iceberg to these stories, we’re wondering a) where the money is going to come from to pay for these damages and his negligence and b) what good is insurance if we can’t use it. No one wants to put in a claim. No one likes to have to do it but, isn’t that what we pay insurance for doing when we need it? On top of that, we have Covid-19 concerns as well. So, where does the buck stop except in the pockets of those who benefit most?

From my little corner of life to yours, share your ideas, stories and don’t be afraid to try. What have you got to lose by trying? I’m not done but, this piece is for now. Updates to come as I know them to be but, please, if you’ve gone through this, write it down as a comment and perhaps, I’ll get a petition going. Add your name as a signature.

Be well, stay well, best wishes,

Love and Light!

Protesting Brings Issues of It’s Own That Go Against The Cause

They’re losing the cause and getting sicker!

It doesn’t seem to matter what anyone says, even health authorities. There are still protests happening all over the world for differing reasons/causes. The shame is that they are done in such a way that allows transmission of a rather deadly virus with heavy consequences and they don’t seem to worry about it or care. Why?

Let’s take a look at Black Lives Matter and their movement. On the one hand, they are saying that those of the “Black Race” are picked on by a virus that has no brain and truly doesn’t care who it lands on or of the colour of their skin or age. In other words, they are saying that it’s racist and that Black People are getting the virus and dying more. Yet, who are the ones out there, protesting, yelling, screaming and not physically distancing? It’s only when tickets of by-laws are talked about being handed out that they will put on a mask and socially distance somewhat. Once that threat is gone, they are back out without care or concern, screaming, yelling and protesting. White people are right along with them as well.

What’s striking to most is that the majority of those who are involved in these riots are those who are under the ages of 50. They are usually those who are of the 20-something year old crowds or even 30’s and 40’s. Going “home” is not of their concern either. If they’ve contracted Covid-19, they don’t seem to be at all concerned who else they infect, including those who are of more tender and vincible ages or situations. Is there any wonder why then that Black Peoples tend to contract this stupid virus more than any other race especially, since there is a lower per capita in most countries of them?

It can be found to be most unfortunate but, also disgraceful to say the least and, it’s truly only themselves that are to blame for a lot of it because they don’t follow protocols well. What is that saying? It’s possibly saying that an issue that has been decades in the making and has been around for more and more time, is being protested against because they have the time, energy and where with all to do so. The “care” about anyone else was and is and has been never there anyway.

Let’s look at those who have protested against having to wear a mask, or how to go back to school for their kids, not caring who they put in danger with their protests but, also the fact that they don’t tend to care about their children’s teachers or other people. They simply don’t want to wear masks, want the daycare for their children so that they can go to work as well as the “right” not to have to wear masks.

I don't want to wear a mask.  Trump doesn't so I should have the right to not wear one either.  Other people be damned.  It's my rights that count not yours!
Do as you please but, do it far away. and stay there. AT least Trump gets tested daily. You don’t! What’s worse is that it’s not just your body. It’s everyone’s that’s at stake here. If you don’t protect me, I’m not going to protect you either.

As an Indigenous Person, as well as Irish in background from both sides of the family, I don’t live on a Reserve, I am married to a retired teacher and frankly, I find this type of action not helping at all. It’s doing more damage than good especially when people are protesting having to wear masks to protect others. How is that a violation of their rights? When someone else is protecting them by wearing a mask, shouldn’t the gesture be returned? Do they not listen to the daily news numbers? If they don’t like having to wear a mask, stay put at home or in isolated areas. Enough said.

THEY “can’t teach from the grave”? Neither can teachers! Teachers didn’t have their kids, they did!

We should get one thing perfectly clear here. SCHOOLS ARE NOT TO BE CONSIDERED DAYCARE CENTRES EVEN IF ONE DOESN’T CARE ABOUT THEMSELVES catching the virus. Other people care.

Having had a child who attended school (yes, she was brought home for hot lunches every day and taken back to school or even work), a husband who was a teacher etc., not only did they get everything going around as we all know that schools are filled with viruses and germs that get passed around easily and freely, but they brought it all home with them, being sick then passing it onto me. They were both sharing alright and so are these stupid people.

A child is a full responsibility for their non-working years and beyond. Not only that but, they are the responsibility of those who have had them when they get sick with something or other. Any parent should have a back-up plan for taking care of their children versus making schools appear as though they are daycare centres. If one cannot afford a child or 10 of them, one shouldn’t have them at all. Teachers are not to be considered childcare people. What happens when a child is truly sick and cannot go to school? Is it the school’s fault that your child or children aren’t feeling well enough to attend it? What happens then? Why is it that parents are miffed when schools cannot open or remain so or their child’s teachers are off, sick themselves and supply teachers have to be brought in until they also get sick? Could that be because parents are sending infectious children back to school far too soon and they are in turn, causing others to get sick as well both fellow classmates as well as teachers? It’s like a vicious cycle that cannot be stopped. One child infects 3 or 5 others and likewise until the school is filled with whatever it is that’s going around. That also includes their teachers and their families. When something is circulating it goes round and round to everyone and back again if it is of that nature to do so.

What about the Chinese peoples who not only risked their lives to go into shafts drilled into the sides of mountains and rocks for railways to be put through but, also a lot of them lost limbs and their lives doing so? Do they matter or only masks having to be worn or Blacks who shoot one another or whatever their causes may be? Is this truly the time to do this type of thing in such a way that burning down stores, cars, trucks, local businesses etc. because there’s time to do so, right? Does it make any point other than a, “look at me screaming over a megaphone, unmasked, not socially distanced and I don’t care a hoot about what I may contract and give to someone else that I live with” type of thing?

What about Chinese peoples who laid their lives on the line to build America’s and other countries’ railways?

It appears to be the case in a lot of cases. If there’s something to protest against, it will happen and be done. If there’s nothing obvious, they will create something to protest over.

I agree that there are some changes that have needed to be made to certain social or racial group things like policing but, when there’s cooperation, shootings aren’t the norm and so on, there will be less of that type of action by police and protesters as well. Does it solve it all? No, it doesn’t however, going against the laws of any land or country and especially a pandemic, doesn’t help either. Ask any Indigenous person what stopping goods from getting across a country for months has done for them? How about the alcohol or drugs or glue sniffers or whatever what being on a reserve has done for them? They don’t even live like they used to live with hunting, fishing and gardening. They head to the local grocery stores and there’s often a lot of in-fighting as well. Talk to a chief’s wife and see how well that is going and why as their children want out of a reserve.

From my little corner of life to yours, everyone has an agenda and that includes politicians and institutions but, it doesn’t give license to others to be protesting unlawfully or doing so with violence or destruction in their wakes nor in spreading a deadly new virus to others. If one wants to protest in this manner, seek out an isolated area and be prepared to not return home to give whatever it is that you may have picked up to others. No one wants it and frankly, let issues sit until better times. That’s 2 cent’s worth that’s worth more like $2.

Be well,

Love and Light!

Let Go Of “Toxic” People

Giving to others of yourself, your time, your energy, your thoughts only brings you more heartache as the other person cries whatever they want from you.
I want…I want….I want!!!!

What most people often don’t think about or realize is that someone like me, has issues in their life too. It’s not like everything brings cake and ice cream or sprinkles and rainbows. There are problems but, they don’t care. Why? It’s more than likely because they’ve never had to concern themselves with worry about us and more often due to the idea that we’ve done everything that we could for them. That’s especially true during times of troubles for them. In other words, we’ve had to turn ourselves and our lives, inside out for them. Do they care? Not really. Why?

Reason #1:

People like this have been trained by us to rely upon us for help whenever they wanted or needed it and we were there for them with bells on.

Reason #2:

Someone who doesn’t care that you may have needs too, minimize your needs or make our problems less than they are. After all, we’ve helped them through so much that they feel that they are #1 and always should be to you.

Reason #3:

People who don’t recognize that we have issues, problems and troubles too and at least attempt to help you out are oftentimes more concerned about themselves and their own issues. As a matter of fact, your concerns may either appear to be or be made to be, less than anyone else’s, especially their own.

Reason #4:

Even if they’ve said that they don’t care to have “drama” as part of their lives, they actually may thrive on it and if it’s not there, they’ll produce it. Why? Because it gives them something to whine about and keep you on their string or, it could be because they mean that they want someone who will pay attention to them and their issues.

Reason #5:

They manufacture, conjure, dream up or twist around the facts so that they are the only ones without blame. It’s always someone else’s faults, never theirs. They have a right to their thoughts and you have none or aren’t supposed to have them. You’re supposed to always agree and do as they want. Others in their lives do as far as they are concerned and if they don’t, these types of people will see to it that they do via one method or another. It’s called “control”. This is where the 2 + 2 = 5 thinking comes into play. That 5, be it wrong or right (we know that it’s wrong), is right in their worlds and minds and they will make it 5 in everyone else’s minds around them who don’t think for themselves or, who are out to use these people for whether they give or not.

It’s easy to see that in others if one is to think back about it.

How often were you available in every way possible for someone but, when you needed something, you got nothing except a fleeting thought?

Were you able to express your problems? Did you stop because you’d always done the helping and listening and thought that they might be bored if you did talk about your issues more? What if it was because you thought about them first and what they may be going through? Have you always been the one who has called, checked in or done for them and now, you’ve been slapped in the face in some way or another and can’t be bothered anymore? Has it become a hassle that you’ve finally seen isn’t worthy of another tear, lost night’s sleep or concern?

If it’s the last sentence above, it’s likely that the person/people that you’re thinking of needed to be out of your life. In other words, doing, doing, doing and more doing for them wasn’t going to solve it. Oh yes, as long as you watched your mouth, agreed with everything, gave them everything of yourself and plainly gave and gave to them, you may have stayed in their lives but, one disagreement area meant that they were off and out of. your life.

Those are signs that it was a “receivership” and not a relation no matter what you thought it may have been. Truth is that you were likely the one who was doing all of their bidding and as long as you were doing that for them, you may have been ok. If you were doing everything that they wanted, saying the right things, etc., you may have been being used until they found someone else or others who would do for them and frankly, Dear, they didn’t give a damn about you at all.

A wise therapist once said to me that people don’t respect people who don’t respect themselves. How true that is. Another said to me years later that doing for others in order to have a warm body beside them was a fool’s game and how true that was as well.

Reality is that I’ve recognized that I’m no one’s puppet and I shouldn’t have been for so long. Better to have recognized that now than to never see the light, isn’t it? Sadly, extremely sadly, that means that many people weren’t worthy of my time, energy or effort for a great deal of the time that I had them in my life. It was long ago time to let them go after, of course, voicing my own concerns, issues, troubles, problems and such. In other words, they weren’t meant to be given as much of me as I had given them. They were in fact, “toxic” to my life and honestly, they were more than likely, “narcissists” or concerned so greatly with themselves and their own lives that they weren’t worthy of being given all that I had given them both of myself and my life.

So, what happens next?

I simply “give up”. I don’t care to chase, to pander or to give to them any longer.

Let them think what they want to think.

Give them room to figure out that I’m no longer available for their issues or to give to them. They will. There will come a time when they will want something from me and guess what? I won’t be running to them to give it to them.

From my little corner of life to yours, let go of those who think 2 + 2 = 5. They are lost and manufacturing that number. Let them think it if they want to. Let them re-write the math or whatever scripts that they’ve written and swallowed. They will anyway. Why try to stop them? Stop yourself instead from the “toxicity” even if that means waving “goodbye” to them for good. They weren’t honest with themselves or you to begin with and they were only in a relationship with you because of what they got from you. Everyone has their time of receiving. If they’ve found someone else to take your place, you weren’t worth it to them and you won’t be. That’s on them, not you. Take it for what it is.

Best wishes!

Love and Light!

The New Virus Doesn’t Care About You Or Your Age

At least I got to party with friends before I got sick. I don’t care that other have to take care of me now.

In a previous article, I wrote that those under the age of 40 would see an increase in the number of Covid-19 cases if they believed themselves to be invincible. That is happening. Why? Most of it is because people are facing “Covid Fatigue”.

Yes, there is no doubt that the greater majority of people are reaching points where mental health is suffering because of this pandemic. If anyone thinks that it’s only school aged people/children, they’d be wrong. Even those who are beyond those years are feeling the effects of it too. Not many are happy being stuck indoors. We are after all, considered social creatures. We all need others in our lives even if we tend to stay more to ourselves.

However, that all said, it’s certainly an increasing number of younger people who are not only contracting the virus but, who are spreading it like wildfire. Do they not realize that for every positive case, they are putting those numbers upwards and giving health authorities the reasons to keep things closed? Do they not care about businesses or other people’s lives who could die? Are those who are involved only care about themselves or those in their “groups” that are way out of proportion to what’s advised?

Take one look at the beaches of the world, the parties that are way above and beyond the numbers set out by the doctors of this world. One can see even via a photo or description and video that it’s gotten out of hand. No one needs a party of 200 of their closest friends during a time like this. Who even knows 200 people? What about the beach parties where not only is garbage and excrements left behind by the beach goers but, there’s NO social/physical distancing, alcohol which lowers thinking patterns to idiot status and there are no masks either. Do we really even want to touch the protests that have occurred? Maybe, that’s better left off right now.

The central messages are that the types of people who do this type of thing have no or little regard for anyone else’s lives other than their own fun.

  1. If you don’t care about yourself, think of those that you live with. You’re endangering their lives by your choices or lack of them shall we say?
  2. These antics are setting things backwards. If you think that people are losing their businesses and lives so that you can party or drink or whatever, think again. They often don’t know where their next meal is coming from, let alone mortgage, rent or anything else for that matter. That means that you won’t either.
  3. People are fed up too. It’s not just you. What if everyone were to think as you have and only concern themselves with having fun?
  4. Things that could have opened, now can’t because people like this are thinking as they are.
  5. What about healthcare workers and 1st Responders? Should they have to risk their own lives and other’s in their lives, lives for you if you become infected?
  6. If you think that you’re going to take it lightly or asymptomatically because you’re of a certain age, think again. There are a lot of people who are dying and suffering and will because they ignored the requests to stay away from others as much as possible and went to parties. If you think this is wrong, watch the news once in awhile and listen to stories of people your age. You’ll see an entirely different story than the one imagined in your thick skulls.
  7. Let’s say that you do get Corona/Covid-19. Do you truly expect that there should be a hospital bed available for you if you needed it? Again, think again! It’s no laughing matter nor, is it screamable. No one is going to listen to you or put their lives in danger for you if you’re doing this type of thing.
  8. People will tell on others. They have to do it. Tracing isn’t a joke and everyone that someone had come in contact with will be named. Yours could be one of them.
  9. Make sure that you have the money to pay off a ticket that a by-law person has handed you. It’s not your parent’s jobs to take care of your tickets and they may not…even if they do have money.
  10. If you wish to go to a bar and sit and drink, or the beach, or a gym, remember that you’re not alone in this type of wish but, you’re not going to get there if you continue doing crud like this. It’s serious business no matter what you’ve been told. Don’t believe me, seek out a Medium and ask the dead. Think that they were all “older people”? Think again.

From my little corner of life to yours, as long as I have one that is, I’m going to admonish those who go against measures that have been put into place for a reason. It doesn’t matter what age you’re at but, increasingly, the numbers are going up again because of antics by those who believe themselves to be an exception. That’s especially true of those who are of a certain age group.

In the meanwhile, stay well,

Love and Light!

Covid-19: Should We Really Be Getting The Seasonal Flu Shot This Year?

Seasonal Flu Shots, tests, Corona Virus/Sars-CoV-2/Covid-19…does it really matter what one has or doesn’t have? Do we really need testing and vaccines for the Seasonal Flu this Fall? Let’s see.

First off, when a person takes the seasonal Flu Shot, not only are they “pissing off their immune systems” with a vaccine that may or may not work due to wrong guesses, mutations etc., but, even if they did have the Seasonal Flu, it CAN (not confirmed but stated in a prestigious medical journal) leave us wider open to getting respiratory viruses like even the common cold. Do we really need more since Covid-19 signs are about the same as a hen house pack of hens with everything from a sore throat to nothing?

What about the fact that even should one test for Covid-19, there’s nothing that can be done about a positive result? One is sent home to “monitor themselves” UNLESS symptoms require hospitalization. So, that said, what’s the difference if you are tested and a positive comes out of it other than for tracing purposes? They can’t help you. As a matter of fact, a lot of people, (myself included) will take a positive Covid-19 test result as an automatic death sentence. One seems to have better chances of living with other diseases being present, including “cancer” which no one wants of course.

Secondly, is getting a sometimes useless seasonal flu shot worth the risk of you getting Covid-19 since it doesn’t protect against it and MAY NOT even be the right strains of flu going around or at the least, as stated above, it having mutated so badly that your body doesn’t fight it completely off? Remember that symptoms of Covid-19 can mimic most flues, colds and whatever else you can name.

Don’t get me wrong. I take Covid-19 seriously. I don’t want to risk getting it and will only go out once a week or every 2 weeks if possible, contactless deliveries etc.. I’ve washed my hands until they’re raw, wear a mask properly, bring both disinfectant and hand sanitizers with me and take off my mask by the elastic loops, turning it or keeping it outside inwards.

That all said though, I’ve lamented over getting the annual Seasonal Flu Shot this year even though I’ve skipped years and the ones in which I have had it done, I’ve been sicker with other things such as colds and other viruses than before and, I’ve actually had a reaction to the shot. It’s not an easy decision to make but, in reasoning it all out, I may tend to skip this year’s Seasonal Flu Shot and trust me, I won’t be first in line when we can get them to get a Covid-19/Coronavirus vaccine either. I wish to see the ramifications of side effects before I’ll even attempt to get one done. The vaccine is being rushed through and perhaps, rightfully so but, being med-phobic anyway, I’m not about to hurry into my physician’s office as soon as one is available to the general public.

I recognized today, the indignant person that I am, that being left behind in a lower state of re-opening means nothing really. It’s akin to being able to play in a playground which is something that means nothing to me unless I wish to take up swinging on a swing or going down a slide which I doubt I could even climb anymore anyway. It means things like gyms being open for a small capacity, something I didn’t do before Covid-19 and even with all of the time to think on my hands, I’m not about to start now even if they were to pay ME to do so. It can mean outdoor activities can jump from gatherings of 10 to 50 or more while I’m still struggling to figure out how to gain 10 people as part of my “bubble”. There’s so little added to Stage 3 re-openings that I wouldn’t bother with at the best of times, let alone during Covid-19, that it really means nothing to me. What does mean something to me is that while I don’t wish to do these things anyway or have no use for them, I likely wouldn’t use them even if they were a possibility. The numbers will simply go up as to positive cases anyway. Those who partake of such are more than likely going to be of a younger age and we’ve all seen both those who drink alcohol and shoot off fireworks at 2 a.m. and how much they care, right? If they do things like that now, what are they going to do if they are given more leeway? Give an inch and they’ll take a mile.

We’re not talking about the younger crowds either. I worked up my courage and stood in line with the rest of people to get into a Walmart because I needed things. Guess what? Not only was it a zoo with people who totally ignored signs telling them which way to go and going down aisles that were plainly marked as “up” (no you didn’t need to be able to read the language as I think footprints on the floor can be universal in languages) but, in other parts of the store, it was a free-for-all where people reached over others, walked down aisles that they should have at the least stuck to “right side” like driving a vehicle, stood middle of aisles, picking up items that they were clearly passing time looking at and putting back but, when they saw others coming up one way, they decided that they had to be in that aisle too. I by-passed quite a number of things that I needed because there was no way that I was going to pick up things that others had felt around with, opened packages and put them back. I don’t do that at the best of times, let alone during times like this.

Suffice it to say that I haven’t ventured to a hair stylist’s who is booked up for weeks to come anyway but, while I do trust my stylist to be honest about their own health issues, I don’t exactly trust the other 8 or more people in there at that time. It’s too close in quarters for my liking.

However, having watched my husband who was given a Seasonal Flu Shot last Fall, be tremendously ill some 6 or so hours after the shot, including fever and nauseau that lasted for 3 days or more, I’m not about to leap into getting the shot for tracing purposes only and in all reality.

From my little corner of life to yours, it’s totally up to your own judgement and the numbers or your own gut feelings about getting the Seasonal Flu Shot this year and why. It’s not up to me to decide for you but, be aware that every doctor is schooled into the idea of shouting out, “Flu Shot Time!”. Is it really? This year with dust storms from the Sahara Desert, Killer Hornets and so much more, including a Pandemic, is it really? Think about it and make your choice. Remember though that vaccine manufacturers and shareholders love to make money no matter where you are in the world. Something “free” to you, costs someone, something, somewhere. Think about it and comment on your thoughts about it.

Best wishes, Be well!

Love and Light!

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